“Depending on the depth of your relationship, it can feel like you’re losing not only your ex but part of your identity as well.” As with any loss, grieving can be overwhelming-you may flip-flop between sad, angry, and anxious, and it’s all okay. Take time to grieve the lossĭid you plan a future together? Did you break up after a betrayal or because you learned too late that your relationship was one-sided? “The length of time it takes to get over someone depends on how integrated your partner was in your life and what caused the friction,” says Dixon-Fyle. If you do, it will be easier to move on and heal.” Journaling can be a great way to get out your feelings and put them in a safe place without fear or judgment. “It’s okay to be sad, mad, frustrated, or even to still long for the person. “Take time to embrace your feelings,” says Sullivan. Just as there’s no set timeline for grieving the end of a relationship, there aren’t any rules about what you should and shouldn’t feel, either. If you’re stuck on someone who cheated on you or you’re blue because someone you, err, never technically dated isn’t reciprocating your feelings, you may wonder why you’re so upset. Remember: There are no rules about how you should feel Chatting with a trusted loved one and sessions with a therapist can help you work out your feelings, no matter how difficult it might seem to discuss them. “In order to move forward, you have to give yourself permission to grieve.” Instead, she encourages her patients to feel empowered by allowing themselves the space and vulnerability to feel their feelings. Don’t be so hard on yourselfĬori Dixon-Fyle, founder and psychotherapist at Thriving Path, agrees that you shouldn’t put pressure on yourself to “feel better” about someone by a certain time. There’s no rush when it comes to inner peace. If it takes you weeks or months to truly heal, so be it. “Sadly, there is no mathematical equation to calculate a finite timeframe to recover from heartbreak,” says Amiira Ruotola, coauthor of It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken. Ditch your breakup timelineĪre you telling yourself that you need to update your dating profile by next week, or go out to try to meet a new partner IRL? Are you angry that even after a month, you still feel queasy every time you pass your (former) favorite date spot? Go easy on yourself. Here, their expert tips to help you get over someone-for good. So we asked Sullivan and some other relationship experts to dig a little deeper to help you navigate your way to the light at the end of the tunnel…and no, we’re not talking about the light in your freezer door. We know, we know-that’s not a very satisfying answer when you’re grieving the departure of someone you truly adored. Play icon The triangle icon that indicates to play
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